SHOE FETISH -- Let me start this section by making a few comments and adding an accumulated personal point of view section from my research.  Then on to the Case of the exciting shoe.   This case was gathered from many shoe fetishists and discussed over 25+ years.

There are probably as many women who just love and collect shoes as there are male shoe fetishist counterparts who love them.  However, with that said there are probably not very many who experiment with masturbating with a shoe or that turn on by shoe intercourse.  “BUT” let's point out that for the last 20 or 30 years of my research there have been several surprises and there are several cases where women have claimed they have been turned on by partners with a shoe fetish or with shoes.  Some are learning to be comfortable with it others are still uncertain.  I might also add that you don’t jump in with a new partner and just go for your shoe fetish.  You can’t surprise a partner with a shoe efetish the result could be disaster.  You need an open minded partner who is willing to let you enjoy your fetish and soon you will be able to teach them a thing or two that they never knew or ever thought about.  Let us just say there is a very good reason besides looking good that the fashion industry and those designers made all of these incredibly high quality shoes and some of them are just for people like many of us with a shoe fetish.

MALE SHOE FETISH; for men it is straight forward there are a variety of ways they can do shoes that I categorize in two segments.

The first includes all of the forms of shoe masturbation.  Let's define shoe fetish masturbation as any time you do a shoe and are manipulating it with your hands.  Some masturbate over a shoe and spill into it because it turns them on, others put some silicone lube on their penis and slide it in and masturbate with it using their hands to move the shoe and create friction, or they can rub their penis on a woman’s booted foot, just the boot, or shoe and come to an orgasm similar to a pet rubbing against a person’s leg until they go, etc.  Certainly there are many more additions people can add that are still similar to masturbation.  If you are LGBT or BDSM you can both do each other with shoes as your sexual pleasure. 

The second, and many shoe fetishists favorite way includes actually having intercourse with a shoe or having your partner actually make you have intercourse with a shoe.  To keep it simple one way to do this is to place one erotic shoe that gets you excited on a bed and the other one about two feet in front of the first.  A true shoe fetishist can look at them and they will get very hard fairly fast.  Then they would lubricate their penis with perhaps a silicone sex lube and climb up over the shoe and ease themselves on top and plunging their penis deep into the shoe.  (It is just about the same as you might do for missionary intercourse).  The other shoe?  As they enter the first shoe their face is either in or near the other and they might begin to smell the leather and start fondling and kissing the other shoe as if it might be a lover.  Actually at that moment that is exactly what it is.  They pump deep into the one they are now deep into.  It isn’t complex and not long after they will be so excited they will let go and have a shoegasm, clearly they will have had intercourse with the shoe and not masturbated in it.  The difference, no use of hands in any way.  This form of shoe sex might appear strange to someone without a shoe fetish, but if you have a shoe fetish you already know this replicates very closely real sex and only a shoe fetishist who also enjoys women can verify this too be true and it is so much better than masturbation.     

WOMEN FUCKING SHOES and also LESBIAN SHOE FUCKING 

The good news is that some women just adore designer shoes and are already excited by them in their own way.  Some adult women still get so excited by a great new pair of shoes they will wear them around the house or even at any age still may get so excited they might still put them where they can see them or for a few even wear and take them to bed.  It may be close to a fetish for some of these women but sadly and generally it has not crossed over to them sexually as a true shoe fetish.  That is at least not yet!  However, a few women are starting to admit they have considered what else might be done with these very sexy shoes. 

Know this, some, perhaps many women, already will play and use their shoes to entice a partner and some who adore shoes won’t ever go past this simpple child hoood pleasure.  Perhaps some because they never considered shoes sexually, or because the concept of taking shoes beyond this is disgusting to them.  Many of us grow up with jokes and disdain for our feet and many women consider feet ugly appendages and that sexy shoes help to hide them.  The shoe fetishist needs to recognize the mind set some women might have.  However, with knowledge we all can learn to move on when we need to.  The shoe fetishist has a good chance, at least a beeter chance they are dating or with a woman who wears and understands the power of sexy shoes, and better yet high quality designer shoes and uses that power too get to the next level.  Let’s not ever pretend for a moment that a woman in Birkenstocks gets it.  My notes point out that probably not or they would have never even considered buying such a sexless ugly shoe and claim "but they are functional". 

You must always remember this sex play can be a blast for everyone but sometimes a shoe fetishist gets so hung up on shoes they forget their partner.  If your partner thinks you want their shoes more than them, then you can, “ Color them gone”.  If all you want is shoes and are not interested in the woman, or for a gay a man, then just go buy them on EBAY, a garage sale, or at a resale shop.  You can buy hundreds of used designer shoes and never hurt a real person.  Remember you don’t need the woman to fuck a shoe but it is also the loneliest form of fetish behavior and not a lot of fun for many.  Having a partner can also proivide the fetishist with freshly worn shoes and excitement everyday.  It is worth it not to be self centered.

Let’s start by clearing up a few bits of nonsense on the internet.  There are many images of women sticking a heel up their vagina.  OK we all see that on the internet.  First no woman that we have actually been in contact with is going to put a high heel in her vagina unless she is stoned out of her mind and really doesn't know any better.  Clearly the person creating and setting up the web image does not have a shoe fetish and neither does the woman or the photographer have any idea what to do with shoes, but they think they do and think the heel replicates a phallic symbol so they use it.  Shoe fetish behavior is so in the closet details are hard to find on what to do.   Let’s go back to the heel, it’s plain dumb to think a woman would want to do this without paid or submissive direction!!! Ever look closely at a heel the rubber heel is sharp, and has very sharp corners and in my view would hurt or tear the soft vaginal surfaces.  This is in no way kind and gentle love making!!!  The heel may be slightly phallic but it also does not look like any penis I have ever seen.  So again, using a heel too penetrate a womans vagina is probably a lot of nonsense for any loving person who is not a sadistic do harm person.  With that said someone will probably come back with a comment that says different.  Unless they sand down or file down and round and smooth all of the corners and edges of a heel, “I’ll stand by my comment”.  A 5" stilletto is a very thin and inflexible penis replica as well. 

Second, there are images with a pointed toed shoe stuck 4 to 5 inches or more into a vagina, so far up a woman’s vagina that it just simply looks painful and not erotic at all.  The clitoris is where the action is for her and these shoes are so deep the hollow of the shoe is left with no contact to what is exciting for her.  Another nonsense loser!!!  I suspect this too is a WEB page XXX fantasy?  Being fully experienced shoe fetishists most of us cannot think or consider any way that this would make sense as a phallic stimulator for a partner.  There would be no reasonable way to stimulate the woman with 4 to 5 inches of shoe stuck up their vagina it just looks interesting as a photo image on an uninformed shoe fetish sex site an early inexperienced fetishist might think this  is the way it is done.  “NOT”.  Just imagine trying to pump a shoe that is 4 to 5 inches into a woman in and out of her vagina in this way that is exciting to her or stimulates her clitoris, even if in some strange way it may be exciting to a shoe fetishist there are improved ways too actually do this with a woman where she can enjoy it. 

Then there are the lesbian women who rub against boots or that try to mount and then fuck the point of a woman’s boot.  The images are interesting but a vagina isn’t horizontal and putting a dirty boot inside her vagina is probably more illusion than reality.  BUT, there is a way that can work.  Also no sandals, open toe shoes, buckles, trim, or designs that can interfere with the soft smooth leather surface against the very easy to hurt vaginal walls.  This goes for both men and women clearly a variety of cheap plastic Payless type shoes are not going to be soft enough or easy enough to use in a reasonable way for most people, OK, I'll give in a little, except someone with a cheap shoe fetish, but even here if you want a woman to respond buy high quality softer well made shoes.  If you have to buy them on EBAY to meet your budget, do it.  A lower cost pair of Jimmy Choo knee high zippered boots may cost the same as new Payless plastic shoes but the result diffference is incredible.  Experiment and find out. 

THE CASE OF THE EXCITING SHOE;

SO HOW EXACTLY CAN YOU GIVE A WOMAN ONE OF THE BEST ORGASMS SHE HAS EVER HAD USING A CLEAN VERY HIGH QUALITY DESIGNER SHOE OR BOOT? 

PREPARATION for both oral shoe sex, oral sex, and slow and gentle shoe instercourse;  Just some thoughts and ideas you do this at your own risk  in your own way.

PREP #1;     To start with you need to select your shoes carefully.  This is easier if you have a partner you can ask her, or him, or buy them for your partner picking out shoes that you find incredibly hot and erotic.  Go slower, this isn't so easy: If you date others you may need to collect your own used women’s shoes and boots in a variety of sizes and ask her to wear them for you.  Don’t spring your shoe collection on an unsuspecting new partner until you determine she knows your fetish ad that you still want her.  If she is willing and does wear them for you then you already know she gets that you’re a bit kinky and may be open minded to other things too.  It is a good suggestion to talk with her openly and honestly asking for your partner to wear, or use.  The data ppoints out that very well worn and used smooth pointed toe all leather high heels or boots that are high quality leather lined as well with no outside ornamentatioon is a good choice.  They must not be patent leather or suede but with a fine high quality leather sole.  Patent leather is for the plastic fetishists and even water soluble sex gel that washes off can ruin suede.  Why used?  Because it turns the fetishist on to greater excitement and when the fetishist is excited they will do a better job exciting the woman.  Second because the creases in a soft leather of the toe can be used to stimulate her with the addtiona of a little KY gel.  If you have not figured it out yet, most shoe fetishists love used shoes that reflect the wearer.  New shoes are just that factory shoes and have not yet gained the sexuality of the wearer. 

·  PREP #2;     Then the fetishist, if they have a chance to, must do some creative work using perhaps a fine file and some sand paper.  They need to review the sole and round and sand any rough edges between the sole of the shoe and the toe leather of the upper.   Just sand the sole until when you run it over your tender skin the edges are dull and won’t irritate you.  This sounds like a lot of work but this is the key to success and comments note that many women have enjoyed many of the used Monolo’s, Gucci’s, Chanel’s, and Jimmy Choo's.

·  PREP #3:      Sanitation, the last thing you need is to use a street shoe and infect your partner.  That would be curtains for ever doing it again and any chance of a relationship.  Also she must know that you cleaned them very well.  Yes of course she can still wear them to bed and if you keep your home and floors very clean even better.  So start by sanding or buffing off the rest of the sole to remove any dirt or scratches that could hold bacteria.  For a first cleaning of a shoe you might use alcohol and cotton balls and wipe all of the surfaces of the shoe.  If I’m really concerned I might use a fragrance free quaternary cleaner to disinfect them and then rinse and wipe them carefully to remove all chemical traces.  Follow that up with an alcohol cotton ball rub.  Most of the time you can just do the alcohol cleaning of the surfaces.  Remember you both will have fluid contact with the shoe and the last thing you both need is an infection.   Yes you must clean to tops as well as the bottoms especially if these were street shoes and your plan is to use them with her.

·   Never polish them because that defeats the purpose and removes the actual wear lines.  Don’t clean the inside either, but some might want to with alchohol and cotton balls.  That’s at your own risk but to many the thought of a woman’s foot in a sexy used designer shoe, is hot and they won’t remove it. 

·  PREP #4;   OK now the shoes are almost ready for action, but, one more personal hygiene mandate, don't you think both of you need to clean up?  Take a bath and clean your bottoms very well.  No one gets turned on by oral sex with an unclean partner.  Foul odors are not for me and I want to smell the clean her as well as the leather.  Use soap, use your fingers, get inside and remove the odors.

·  PREP #5;   Some fetishists love to do dry high friction surfaces that can irritate both their penis and a womans vagina.  Most don't!!!  So now you  need a few items to make things well lubricated.  This web site recommends a KY type gel or a private label version, and then KY Intense which is an expensive KY product designed to make her clit more sensitive.  By the way KY Intense works and you only need a couple of drops on her clit or the pointed tip of a shoe rubbed gently over her clit.  Then perhaps some silicone lubricant for your penis later.  If things go well, and they should, the chances are she will now let you rub her clit gently with your tongue and the shoe in combination, and if it goes really well she may start to hump the shoe and allow you to want to slightly penetrate her with the shoe you just had oral sex with.  If not she may want you to just have intercourse with her. Either way you win.  However, if she wwants to hump the shoe you do need a lot more KY gel on the toe of the shoe to reduce friction then it will almost slide right in.  Don't get greedy, a couple of inches and stop if she wants it further she will put it there.  The good news is it is KY is water soluble and wipes and  washes off easily and  probaably won't ruin your fetish shoes.          

WOMAN’S “ORAL” SHOE FETISH ORGASM

Let's keep this part simple because it really is.  Once you are prepped the rest is almost a natural turn on.  The surfaces of the pointed shoe or boot are now soft and they won’t hurt the sensitive skin of her vagina and clit.  Your KY intense, gel, silicone lubricant, and perhaps a few tissues if things get messy are all close by on the bed along with a few pairs of shoes to change into if she wants to.  Let’s face it a few pairs is exciting for the shoe fetishist to have close by.

Everything else would be whatever way she likes it generally a variety of foreplay prior to oral sex.  Have fun and be patient and let the excitement grow for both of you.  Now you work your way to the 69 position in whatever way you both prefer and you start to do her clit with your tongue.  So far everything is as it has always been.  So now you reach for a shoe or boot and with some KY intense on the tip you ease it gently with the toe tip pointing toward her clit from behind her toward your tongue.  You will start to also get excited because now you are kissing her clit gently as you ease the tip and the top of the shoe toward your tongue and gently touch her with just the tip while kissing her clit and at the same time you also get to kiss the tip.  Now that the KT intense is on her clit back it off and add about an inch ribbon of KY gel along the toe and ease it back over her vagina again lubricating her vaginal lips as you kiss her clit and toe of the shoe with your tongue.  The surprise for her is really great oral sex of her clit and the triangular surfaces of the pointed shoe box and top fits perfectly along the sensitive lips of her vagina with the back side touching and stimulating the back side and just slightly under her clit while your tongue is doing her front side of all of the surfaces of her clit.  With your tongue you are stimulating her clit from both sides and she shold by now be approaching electric and with the rest of the top of the shoe stimulating the vaginal lips you have a lot of surfaces being hightened and she will know and most will respond incredibly to this.  That ribbon of gel was to lubricate the front 2 inches or so of the vaginal lips ending at the clit so you don’t have too much friction and hurt or irritate the vaginal lips or her clit. Now, just a few minutes after starting, ease the tip away and to the very toe tip add 3 or 4 drops of KY Intense again and place it with the toe of the shoe back directly on her clit.  Now continue where you left off with the surprise that she has now become incredibly more sensitive. 

Now you both win because you are gently kissing and licking her clit as you kiss and lick the shoe that perhaps she had just worn and you just took off of her hot sexy foot.  The result of the gentle friction of this well lubricated toe box is a gentle pulsing along a few inches of her vagina along with her clit.  You are doing her clit and the shoe is doing her vaginal sensitive lips.  Unless she has done this before she has never had this much gentle oral stimulation, ever, and let's certify here, it works incredibly, sometimes very fast, and can turn easily into multiple orgasms for her.  As she gets excited she will probably and naturally start humping and pulling your head and the shoe closer for more friction your tongue and the shoe or boot will then rub her firmly but gently and harder and the toe point may start to ease slightly further into her vagina.  Let her, this may be where she is the most sensitive and she is guiding you, BUT, resist pushing the shoe into her vagina and trying to watch her fuck the shoe.  I know you want to, but don’t do it.  This is about her enjoyment and not about you this time.  DO NOT, REPEAT, do not try to enter her vagina and penetrate her with the shoe unless she simply makes you do it.  Over time she will, but remember at first she has a lot to get used to about a fetish no one knows much about.

You want her to enjoy and love your shoe fetish before you go further and if you rush this she may end up hating it and never doing it again.  Is that what you want?  We didn’t think so.  So don’t be self-centered, this is her time let her have it and be patient for another time in the future.   If you really do this well you will have another time and get to increase your fetish play.  If it is the right woman she will appreciate what you have done so well she may take the shoes right off of her feet and slide your penis in and fuck you with them.  However, give her some space to learn how your fetish works and let her know she can enjoy parts of it too. If she is so excited she wants to turn around and get fucked by you, what’s wrong with that, you both will enjoy that too.  Simply put you need to let it flow her way. 

WOMEN CAN FUCK SHOES &

For lesbians if they love their dildo’s they will probably also love shoe intercourse and maybe more.  It is oral sex with benefits.  First do everything noted in the oral sex section above and once she has done this a few times she might be ready for the next step.  The only change is that she needs to be really well lubricated or wet for this.  So use another inch of gel this time placing it on the top of the toe box tip that touches her clit and on the sole tip both an inch or so back so that it too can slide easily.  As she gets excited while you are using the tip there is one change that needs to be slowly made.  Turn the shoe sideways so that the toe box and sole are now parallel to her vaginal opening.  Continue kissing her clit and the sideways tip can now touch the under her clit layers gently creating more stimulation for her as she gets more excited and starts to pulse against you move the toe back a bit and allow it to gently ease into her lubricated vaginal opening.  Now you are giving her oral sex as the shoe becomes a natural dildo and slowly enters her vaginal cavity.  If you do this right and pulse it gently and slowly she will begin to want the shoe inside of her and push and hump into herself perhaps 2 or so inches into her vagina.  We know a woman can push the whole 3 to 5 inches of toe box into her vagina this way and hump and have sex while you give her oral sex.  Really pay attention, don't go further than they want you to.  If they were not born a shoe fetishist give them some space.  If you’re gentle and patient it works and for lesbians it is a way to get your partner closer and inside you without using a plastic synthetic toy.    

However, now it is your turn to teach someone.  I have kept this to myself all of my adult life and now the time has come for the shoe fetish to come out of the closet.    

But now you know how to becom a Zen Master at oral sex and for those who enjoy open minded sex let me share with you these are the details you may need to have an incredible play time.  If you already have a passion for shoes or a full blown shoe fetish your ar ein a world of joy.  Time has taught us and we know now that so many more shoe fetishists can be a great partner if they just turn to the needs of their partner and focus on their partner.  

"Practice grasshopper, if you focus they will cum".